Season 106 Episode 3511

How Grief Impacts Our Lives: Understanding the Root Cause - Jessica Hutchison

In this conversation, therapist Jessica Hutchison discusses the topic of grief and traumatic loss. She shares her personal journey of turning her own pain into purpose and highlights the importance of specialized grief therapy. Jessica explains the differences between grief and trauma and challenges the misconception of applying the stages of grief to post-loss situations. She also explores the impact of attachment styles on relationships and provides insights on creating secure attachment. The conversation concludes with a discussion on how to raise children with a secure attachment style. In this conversation, Jessica Hutchison discusses the importance of repairing parenting mistakes and apologizing to children. She emphasizes the need to focus on repair rather than dwelling on our imperfections as parents. Jessica also highlights the significance of addressing misbehavior as a sign that a child needs help coming back online and the importance of separating misbehavior from self-worth. She shares her upcoming training program on sudden and traumatic loss and the grief that follows. Jessica also mentions her podcast, Honest Women, which focuses on honest conversations and self-reflection. She talks about the value of embracing failure, recommends the book 'When Things Fall Apart,' and shares her morning routine and the importance of prioritizing sleep. Finally, she provides information on where to find her online. Takeaways ✅ Focus on repairing parenting mistakes rather than dwelling on imperfections. ✅ Misbehavior is a sign that a child needs help coming back online and should be met with love and support. ✅ Embrace failure as a learning opportunity and a chance for personal growth. ✅ Prioritize self-care, including a morning routine and sufficient sleep. Timeline 01:19 From Pain to Purpose 03:03 Misconceptions about Grief 06:16 The Impact of Trauma on Grief 08:57 The Brain's Response to Grief 09:54 Grief and Breakups 10:50 The Loss of Future Plans 11:42 The Power of Mental Subtraction 12:16 The Impact of Attachment Styles 16:53 Identifying the Need for Grief Therapy 17:14 Finding Solutions for Grief 18:16 Group Therapy for Grief 19:40 Understanding Attachment in Relationships 26:43 The Impact of Attachment on Marriage 27:44 Creating Secure Attachment 40:17 Repairing Attachment in Relationships 44:25 Attachment and Parenting 45:08 Repairing Parenting Mistakes 47:17 Misbehavior and Self-Worth 49:12 Upcoming Training Program 50:32 Honest Women Podcast 52:25 Embracing Failure 53:13 Book Recommendations 54:13 Morning Routine 55:57 Importance of Sleep 56:08 Where to Find Jessica Hutchison